LGBTQ+ Series S1 E1: What is Demisexuality?
Guest Post by Casey
It was only fitting that Casey become the first person to guest post on the LGBTQ+ series. Casey has been a dear friend of mine for so long. We often discuss topics like sexuality. I asked her to do a post on demisexuality to explain it to people who may not know. Casey thankfully agreed!
What is Demisexuality?
A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form an emotional connection. It’s more commonly seen in, but by no means confined, to romantic relationships. The term demisexual comes from the orientation being “halfway between” sexual and asexual. Nevertheless, this term does not mean that demisexuals have an incomplete or half-sexuality. Nor does it mean that sexual attraction without emotional connection is required for a complete sexuality.
When describing demisexuality as an orientation to sexuals. Sexuals often mistake it as an admirable choice rather than an innate orientation. Demisexuals are not choosing to abstain; they simply lack sexual attraction until a close, emotional, relationship is formed.– Wikipedia
Without further ado, please read Casey’s story and she is happy to answer any questions any of the readers may have.
Hello, my name is CaseyQuesadilla. A lot of you may know me from my YouTube videos, however, what you may not know is that I am part of the LGBTQ+ community. Representation is so important in this day and age, but how do you know what you identify as? I got this question so much during my youth because it was hard to know how you identify at such a young age.
“The Title of Lesbian was Thrust upon Me”
During my high school years, the title of lesbian was thrust upon me; when you fit a stereotype in this environment, no one cared how you really felt. However, since growing up I’ve learned that I am much more comfortable in the way I identify; I have no problem telling people where I am on the LGBTQ+ spectrum.
Often, people ask me why I’ve never filmed a coming out video, well that’s because for me it isn’t coming out; it’s more of clarification. I don’t feel a need to come out. However, I’d like to stress that representation is so very important.
How I Define Demisexuality
Demisexuality is when a person doesn’t experience sexual attraction until an emotional connection has been formed. It’s very difficult to explain to people how you gain attraction. More so when we live in a society that says showing an emotional side is to show weakness. I can’t begin to tell you the number of people that I have messaged me asking if I’m “dtf” (down to fuck) which, by the way, is appalling.
This wonderful gem asked me to write a bit for this as it’s something new and it’s always nice to have a perspective from someone that identifies this certain way! If anyone has any questions at all, I’m always open to discuss my sexuality and answer any questions.
In Closing from JustaBelfastGirl
I hope you have found this helpful, please show Casey lots of love in the comments. I’ve included Casey’s social’s, below which include her Youtube (which is also linked here and above), Pinterest and Twitter. Go give her a follow and send her love for this post!